
Love takes off the masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within.
JAMES BALDWIN

INDIVIDUALS WHO ENGAGE IN, OR CONTEMPLATE, CONSENSUAL NONMONOGAMY are often exposed to bias, prejudice, and harm when talking to friends and family or working with mental health and healthcare professionals. The choice to pursue consensual nonmonogamy is frequently and unfairly judged. But books like Jessica Fern’s Polysecure, Esther Perel’s Mating in Captivity, and Molly Roden Winter’s More, among others, have opened up a culture-wide discussion that’s more open-minded and sex-positive.
All relationships present opportunities for imagination, creative adaptation, and mindful improvisation. This layperson-friendly webinar, drawing on contemporary neuroscience and attachment research, as well as the wisdom of participants, offers frameworks and concrete tools for individuals who are navigating consensual nonmonogamy. It’s particularly tailored to those transitioning from a monogamous orientation (or considering such a change). PLEASE NOTE: The webinar is not prescriptive about any relationship form. It is not intended to replace therapy. But it does open space for reflection on what will work for each individual and relationship.
What understandings or agreements can help individuals achieve the right balance of connection and protection when loving against the grain?
By the end of this two-morning webinar, participants will be able to
- Explain the damaging impacts of shame on individuals who pursue unconventional relationship forms;
- Explore their own biases and the effects of their cultural training and socialization and how these can interfere with healthy, creative decision-making;
- Articulate interpersonal strategies to enhance safety and connection and to mitigate threat when loving against the grain;
- Embrace humility as a strategy for moving forward; and
- Apply neuroscience and attachment research, especially information about the human threat response, to common challenges.
Love is Not a Pie: How to Navigate Consensual Nonmonogamy
WEBINAR FOR CLIENTS
May 2 and May 9, 2026
8:30 am – noon PST both days
ADDITIONAL READING:
Exploring Consensual Nonmonogamy: How to Help Couples Avoid Pitfalls and Enhance Their Connection (The Psychotherapy Networker, May/June 2023)

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RAINER MARIA RILKE

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